Welcome to Attuned Living
About me
Hi, I'm Rob, the owner and therapist at Attuned Living.
I want to welcome you to what I like to think about
as front porch counseling, an unhurried approach to
counseling and coaching that allows for the time and
pace we need to take an honest look at ourselves and
life and think about how we want things
to be different, and how we can make them be.
People often tell me that I’m easy to talk to.
That they feel calmer after sitting with me.
That they’re relieved to finally say out loud what they’ve been
carrying for a long time.
I take that seriously.
My work begins there—not with fixing, diagnosing, or
impressing—but with listening carefully and honestly. I try to
offer a space where you don’t have to posture, perform, or defend yourself.
A place where you can slow down enough to hear your own thoughts, and maybe understand them differently.
Why I Do This Work
I didn’t come to counseling because I had life figured out. I came because I didn’t.
I spent many years in ministry, working with people and also quietly wondering about myself. I noticed patterns in my own life—choices that didn’t lead where I hoped, relationships that soured, a sense that something wasn’t working even when things looked fine on the surface. The question that kept returning was simple and unsettling:
Why do I keep doing what I do?
It took nearly thirty years before I had the opportunity to pursue graduate training and formally study those questions. Along the way, I learned what many counselors eventually admit: helping others understand themselves inevitably requires facing your own life with honesty.
That journey shaped me. It also taught me something essential—my path is not your path. While we share common humanity, struggle, and pain, each person’s story deserves careful attention on its own terms.
How I See People
My faith shapes how I understand human beings.
I believe people begin with goodness at their core. At the same time, we live in a world that constantly invites us to avoid discomfort and pursue whatever promises quick relief. Often, the very strategies we use to feel better—avoidance, distraction, control—end up quietly sabotaging our lives and leaving us worse off.
I don’t see people as broken machines or problems to be solved. I see people trying to cope, often in ways that once made sense but no longer serve them.
My work is about helping identify those patterns and gently, honestly dealing with what’s underneath them—what I sometimes call “pulling the thorn.”
What You Won’t Find Here
I am not your judge, jury, or executioner.
I am not impressed by status, credentials, or self-aggrandizement.
I am not a quick-fix artist.
There’s no posturing here. Just human connection, careful attention, and a willingness to stay with what actually hurts instead of circling around it indefinitely. Relief matters—but real relief usually comes from addressing the source of the pain, not just managing the symptoms
Faith and Conversation
Faith matters deeply to me, and it informs how I think about hope, change, suffering, and meaning. I don’t force that into the room, but I don’t remove it either.
In my experience, conversations that touch on faith, values, purpose, and genuine living often emerge naturally when people feel safe and respected. I’ve yet to encounter someone who couldn’t engage those questions thoughtfully when approached without pressure or agenda.
Pace, Place, and Presence
I’m drawn to the slower rhythms of life. I have country roots, and I value simplicity, patience, and time. I’m less interested in trends and more interested in what endures.
Sitting with me is not rushed. We are not trying to “get ’er done.” People are not machines, and meaningful change doesn’t fit neatly into predetermined timelines. That’s one reason I choose to work outside of insurance networks—so the work can unfold at a human pace, without someone else deciding how many conversations are allowed.
Think less “assembly line,” more front porch.
Who I Am, Practically Speaking
I am a licensed professional counselor and a Christian life coach. I’m also a son, husband, father, and grandfather. Before becoming a counselor, I spent four decades in ministry, walking with people through weddings, funerals, mission trips, small businesses, and ordinary life.
I provide counseling services to individuals anywhere in the state of Texas. I offer life coaching to clients worldwide.
If you’re looking for a place to slow down, speak honestly, and work toward real relief—not just coping—I’d be glad to sit with you.
The work
What I do can be summed up in a simple phrase: attuned living.
The phrase comes from attachment theory and pertains to the relationship between a parent and young child. A healthy attachment is one in which the parent is emotionally attuned to the child and meets the needs of that child. And attunement continues throughout life and the best and basic attunement is with self. By that, I mean learning to live in honest awareness of yourself, others, and the life you’re actually living—not the one you think you should have, or the one you’ve learned to perform. Many people are highly functional but poorly attuned. They move quickly, react automatically, and stay busy, yet feel disconnected, restless, or quietly dissatisfied.
Attuned living begins with paying attention, becoming aware in the moment
It involves noticing patterns rather than judging them, understanding emotions rather than suppressing them, and responding thoughtfully instead of living on autopilot. When people become more attuned—to their inner life, their relationships, their values—they often find that change follows naturally. Not forced change, but change that grows out of clarity.
My role is not to tell you how to live, but to help you slow down enough to see what’s already happening, understand why it’s happening, and decide—carefully and honestly—what you want to do with that knowledge.
Why the Trees Matter
The imagery of the oak and the olive tree reflects how I understand growth, healing, and resilience.
The oak represents strength developed over time. Oaks grow slowly. Their roots go deep before much is visible above ground. They withstand storms not because they avoid them, but because they are grounded. In my work, this mirrors the kind of stability that comes from understanding yourself at a deeper level rather than chasing quick solutions.
The olive tree represents endurance, renewal, and peace. Olive trees are known for surviving harsh conditions and continuing to bear fruit year after year. They are often gnarled, weathered, and imperfect—yet still alive and productive. That matters to me. Healing doesn’t require erasing your history; it often involves learning how to live fruitfully with it.
Together, these trees reflect a vision of life that is steady, patient, and rooted. Growth that honors time. Strength that allows for scars. Peace that comes not from avoidance, but from reconciliation with what has been.
That imagery shapes how I approach my work—slowly, intentionally, and with respect for the long story each person carries.
